It is clear that Peter Houghton felt some level of lonliness to be able to carry out his plan. Have you ever felt like you are totally alone and no one else could possibly understand what you're feeling? Do you think other people sometimes feel that way too?
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I dont think that i have ever been totally alone. Because if i am feeling down i am lucky that i always have friends and/or family to pick me up. I feel terrible for the people who have absoluteley nobody to help them when they are down. But unfortunetly there are people who feel this way.
Dan O
ive felt lonely, but i dont believe ive ever felt so lonely that id ever do anything like that. every one has there ups and downs all the time.
-austin
wat could possibley push you to the point of carrying out a plan like that?
-austin
I remember talking to my mother this past summer after not talking to her for a number of years. It was one of those occasions where I was trying to mend years of hurt. The more I told her who I was and what I thought, the more she acted surprised. She didn't understand who I was or what I was about. It was the the most "alone" I've ever felt. I figured if my mom didn't know me, then who would? I felt as if I were on an island and felt as if the woman didn't know the man sitting in front of her. To know that you are someones son and have them look at you with clueless eyes was a feeling I will not soon forget. Feeling alone is scary, even at my age. I did get over this quickly and If you ask I'll tell you how.
Ive felt lonelly before but i wouldnt ever pulll a gun on a student nomatter how lonelly i was. thats just outa hand
Brett Blancha
Peter went to a dark place and as we read you will see the circumstances that led up to the shooting. I will say that Peter could not hold the expectations of his family or society.
I remember being really really lonley sometimes. I just felt like no one would understand what I was going through and just didn't want to be around anyone. I would hole myself up in my room and watch movies and listen to music alone. Eventually, I realized that sometimes it's better to just get stuff off your chest and not to bbe alone. It was a big moment for me. :)
~Jules :)
I want to know what people did to Peter to hurt him that much and make him feel so alone. :( I feel bad for Peter. It wasn't right what they did to him, whatever they did to push him that far.
~Jules :)
ive felt alone before and people feel the same wasy too but when your alone you dont realy notice it if someone else is the same way as you.
Craig
your soo right juilanne(:
-Katie(:
if some should put peter down that much they should at least know how it feels to be the peter first and if they did they should be the beter person and not make another person feel that alone just to make yourself feel better
Craig
i believe that everyone sometimes has some ind of lonliness and some people have lonliness all the time and can never seem to get through it and in some case can go off doing something he or she may regret. i personally have never been totally alone to the point where i will take a weapon and kill other or therefore myself but it is no fun experiencing lonliness and everyone take it in different ways.
Jake Ferrell
yeah, people sometimes do stuff that they would regret but if you go to a school with a gun and kill people ingeneral not just the ones you hate thats a BIG problem and might need help but i do agree what6 jake said 100% and some times its hard to realize that when youbring a gun in school or even think of it try to ask for help
Craig
i have felt lonely before when my grnadma died and I felt as if no one felt what I was feeling but my whole family was feeling the same thing as I was. I guess you really dont notice anyone elses feeling because you are just focusing on how lonely you are and how it couldnt get any better no matter who talked to you.
-j pack
I agree with dan, i dont think ive felt totally alone, ive felt alone but ive had good friends and family who have my back and are ready to catch me when i fall. they know how to make me laugh when i dont feel like smiling. So therefore i havent felt so alone that it would push me to carry out a plan like Peters.
-nichole(:
I agree with you Jess. When ym Grand Grandmom died my brother and i were so close to her that we felt like no one in the world could understand how were feeling. And your right we were so focused on how lonley and upset we were that it didnt matter who talked to us.
-nichole(:
I have definatly felt lonely many times before. Like when i moved here... luckily i made a bunch of great friends. but other times when i have felt really lonely my friends have been there for me. but sometimes when you feel like that, no matter how many times someone says "its gonna be okay" or "you ll get over it" it doesnt seem to help because you are feeling sooo bad. thats just it. but i dont think i would ever even think about pulling a gun on someone because i felt so bad.
~Autumn <33
P.S. i like what julie said :)
I have deffinatly felt lonley and like no one understood me. But to kill people? Thats sick. I cant even imagine ruining peoples lives and basically trying to make them feel as bad as i do. The better idea is to make yourself feel better no matter what it takes. I know what its like to feel like you have hit rock bottom and it never even crossed my mind to hurt ANYONE.actually i felt the exact opposite. I hoped that no one felt as bad as i did because it was horrible. I really hope that peter realizes that in this book although its already too late.
-Jenna-
I think that there will always be a level of loneliness that is in our lives. But only if the person is excluded or demeaned in any way does the level of loneliness manifest into something. In 19 Minutes, Peter was so lonely he felt that he had no choice but to kill his classmates. I think that whatever was on his computer screen that morning made him feel soo lonely, he had no one to turn to. I think if you are happy, you will never really feel lonely. At least not to the point of harming yourself or others.
~Jon H.~
i agree with jenna. :)
~Autumn <33
Yeah, I feel some sort of loneliness when I get in trouble or get in an argument with friends and family, or if everything is going in the wrong direction. I was getting yelled at for going places without telling my mom at home, I got a bad grade on a math quiz and my dad was telling me I wasn't good enough and that I was selfish and lazy, and I was getting in some arguments with my friends and when all that happened I felt like I was the only person that was going through that kind of situation. It bothered me alot, but to tell you the truth I can never get mad for more than a day or two unless its something serious and I would never go to the lengths that Peter went to. When I'm upset or feel lonely I either drink a gaterade(don't ask why they just make me feel better you should try it), shoot some hoops, ride my bike, or listen to music. Then I calm down and think about the situation and then figure out what I'm going to do. Plus I always have Kelsey to go and talk to. She is like magic and always makes me feel better.I have to conclude this with no I have never experienced an extreme anger or loneliness that I would want to kill my classmates which is good for you guys, but I can definitely see someone wanting to do that after getting made fun of and maybe coming home to drunk parents. :)MATT(:
This is something that I can relate to. Like Brett said "I don't think I would have ever have to pull a gun out on students." That is something that should be dealt with a consular or something if you want to pull a gun on anyone. Now I am not trying to say everyone has but I am sure every one has had there good and bad. I guess you could call it a element of life or something along the lines of that
Michael Knox
at some point in your life, if it hasn't happened already, your gonna feel like no one is there for you.. that no one understands you. I havnt, and dont think i ever will feel the extreme amount of lonliness that peter was feeling when he killed his own classmates. You probably wont realize it when you are feeling lonely.. but there will probably always be somone who will understand what your going through.
- garthwaite
I have had some of those lonely feelings before. I think it was at my house when i was talking to my mom about these really horrific nightmares I had about my dad that happened all the time. It turned to the point where i had to sleep on the floor of my brother's room just to make sure just to make sure i was ok. When i told my mom this she said "no one else ever had this problem, so why do you?" That's when i felt lonely in my life. That my mom what putting me in a spot i never wanted to be, a shadow of my brother's and sister's. It's a really dark and lonely place. That she was comparing me and putting me into a state in where i had to look at myself and say whats wrong with me? But a thing about loneliness is that since i dont have those bad nightmares about my dad anymore, the memories never go away. It's a shadow on your brain. Not fully dark, but still visible so you always get a little spooked when you glance at it every once and a while.
I sort of feel for Peter because there had to have been some overcasting shadow or a cloud of darkness that clouded his brain, and the rest of his body to make him feel like this. Now for the rest of his life he'll always remember that shadow.
-MeggiB
im with "gartwaite" on this one you probably wont realize when your lonely until you realize that you need someone more than you ever had before
-packard
Agreed with packard and dicroce!
MeggiB
OMG! Megan, i ablsolutly love your post!! its sooo good!! :)
~Autumn <33
love you meggi.
hailsss
Megan , i really like yours!!! Good Job(:
-nichole(:
thanks guys. I've never really noticed how many people would really be there for you if you just let someone in every once and awhile. feels good, people should try it sometime!
MeggiB
I think that you can be surounded by 100 people any still feel lonely because none of them truely know how you feel, but when you find that one person who knows the real depth of lonelyness the pain seems to just disapate because you know your not alone.
-Tyler
megan i love you!!
-packard
Usually I don't feel alone. I feel that there is one person that i can always talk to, but that person isn't as close with me anymore because of one incident that shouldn't even be an issue because it was a lie. I will admit though, a week or so ago i did feel lonely....i felt like i had no one to talk to because no one believed me... and it was something that i didn't even do! I will say, that is probably the only time that I have truly felt "lonely". I lost a few friends, and my best friend who i thought was always there for me kind of turned on me, along with my other so called "friends".... it's a terrible feeling.... and like i said, all over something that isn't even true. But now i have moved on and am hoping that things will eventually work out, and i will have that one person... my best friend to talk to about anything again, so i will no longer feel lonely. But i now have another group of friends that i actually feel i can depend on so that i won't have to deal with feeling lonely another time.
I definitely think that other people feel alone at certain times, maybe having the same situation as me, or maybe they are treated poorly at school, etc. This is a terrible way to feel, knowing from my experience. I truly don't think that anyone should ever feel alone, you should always have one, or more, people that you can vent to or just talk to and know that they will be there for you.
But, I never think that anyone should take their lonleyness out on anyone else, unlike Peter. You should never kill a group of people, or one single person, because of your difficulties.... it's just not right.
~Jackie
I definetely agree with nichole, dan, and jess packard. All of you guys great job (:
-Jackie
for a while until I was about six i lived with my aunt and uncle after my parents got divorced. I was only five months when they got divorced and once my dad left my mom just gave me to them. I remember coming to my mom's house when she took me back and feeling the sense that i didn't belong here. It was the worst feeling in the world. I still look at her with the unforgiveness to this day, and it's something i'll have to live with for the rest of my life. Every now and then I ask my mom about it and not even she could give me an explanation to satisfy my curiosity. My mom and I don't have the best relationship now, and my dad and I barely talk. There's always this gap between us. I see it, and I know she does too. She's always had this hostility towards me and it's difficult to be around her when she acts different towards me then to my little sister. It's not something I would expect people to understand which is why I don't talk about it that much. It's something only she can explain. The lonliness from it doesn't make me want to put a gun to her head, it simply just makes me want nothing to do with her.
-kelsey
Jackie, i love your post!! its sooo good(:
if you ever need someone to talk to im always here for ya bud!! ily.
-nichole(:
But i guess there had to be some problems for Peter, therefore causing this... so in a way i feel bad for him.
P.S. Great job Megan
~Jackie
Thanks nichole,
Sometimes i still feel that i need someone to talk to so i'll remember that your there for me. Thanks Buddy (:
~Jackie
kelsey,
i couldnt imagine ever what you are going through
if you ever need anyone to talk to my friends and i are here.
-jess packard
Great Job Kelsey!!!
~Jackie
I think that loneliness definetly plays a part in a divorce. Especially if you are the child watching your parents do this. You start to question if this happening was your fault. You do feel seperated from your everyday life that you were so used to. Everyone has loneliness in their lives. It's just the struggle of keeping it at bay and making yourself content with who you are all the more realistic. Life wouldn't be surprising if we didn't have happiness or love or fear or loneliness to live with.
Jon H.
Good Job Kelsey!!!
-nichole(:
hey jon great job!
-jess packard
matthew you are a genius.
Dan O
I have never felt so lonely that I didn't feel like I had anybody to go to, although I have felt really lonely. I always know that my family and friends will understand me and help me through anything. I think the best thing to do when your feeling lonely is talk to your best friend, because they probably understand you the best.
-Ben P.
yeah thats very true ben, i know i can trust my freinds with almost anything
-Tyler
Great Job nichole,
That must have been a terrible feeling and i know where you're coming from.... same experience
~Jackie (:
Thanks Jackie(:, and yeah it was.
-nichole(:
Ben,
I agree with you, but sometimes what if your best friend is the one tht made you feel lonely in the first place? Then who do you talk to? What if your parents just don't understand?
Jackie
Nichole,
I understand, and like what you said.... I'm always gonna be there for you too bud. ily2.
~Jackie (:
jackiee, i loveee your post!! im always here for you too.. i think since i moved here we have become really good friends so im always here :)
~Autumn <33
Auutumnn, i love your post!! its soo good!! Good Job buddy(:
-nichole(:
I think everyone feels lonly sometimes.From the cheerleaders to the chess players. I have personally never felt so lonely to shoot someone or pull a gun, like otherss have said.When I get lonely the best thing for me is to talk it out with my mom!I know I can always go to her!!!!
Loattes
jacks.. if this best friend of yours was really a true best friend.. she (or he..) would never even think about making you feel lonely..
hailey
Kelsey,
I love your post and I think it's really great of you to share your story. Great Job!!
Loattes
Jackie,
Even if it was your best friend who made you so lonely i think you should still go to them. Best friends are people who should want to hear what you have to say. And people always learn from their mistakes, and maybe with this mistake you and your best friend can become closer. And understand each other better.
Dan O
Kelsey,
i love your post. Its so honest and it couldnt have been easy to tell that to everyone. I cant imagine what that feels like, but we are all here for you to talk to, I hope you know that :)
~Jenna~
Dan,
i really like what you said in response to jackie's post :) its really good :)
~Autumn <33
Jackie,
If there is a next-best friend, then I think you should talk to them. If it's your whole group of friends that makes you feel lonely then I think that you should leave that group and find a new group that won't be cruel to you and will accept you.
-Ben
Hailey i agree with you. Hopefully this best friend wouldnt have done that to you to begin with.
Dan O
yeah. i know my best friend would never try to make me feel lonely. i wouldnt want to be friends with someone who didn't understand me
garth
I really like what Tyler said about being in a crowd of 100 people and still be lonely. Gym a couple years ago made me feel that way. It's like you all alone being judged.
Loattes
personly ive never had true depression or lonliness so far in my life. But sooner or later your going to be lonly or depressed. Life is a bumpy road or an ocean wave, it has its ups and downs. if life were one straight line it would be the most boring thing you could imagine. Thats why we get lonliness in our lives. Humans are like "buildings" they will stand at good times but when things get bad they fall down. So then you build yourself right back up. We need those moments in our life.
-ROBERT-
Jackie I agree with you sometimes your bestfriends make you feel lonesome in the first place. If they leave you or walk away it's like a stab in the back.
Loattes
Robert,
I Really like what you said. I agree if life were a straight line it would be the most boring thing. Thats true. Good Job!!
-nichole(:
way to go roberto. since when do i call you roberto.. sorry. good job tho. agree with you
hailey
robert i couldnt write it any better
!
WOW! Robert! that was a great....analogy? yea i think that's what it's called. But yeah that was really good what you said and i agree with you 100%
Dan O
robert i couldnt write it any better
!
sorry forgot to put my name
-Ryan Szelc
i have felt lonenly at some points of my life but its not as intense as peters where o would consider killing people.. but i think the lonelyness was from feeling left out of my group for like months.. no one in my group would really text me really when i texted them and they would always get together after school without me.. i cried myself to sleep for the longest time before i did something about it... and being so close to just one group of friends is hard because when your in a fight, you just dont know what to do or say and you feel like there is no where else to go because youve been with the same people for so long and never really considered being that close to any other people.. but my family was there for me when i needed help with it.. i asked my older sisters for advice and i got some that worked and now we are friends again..(i love my sisters, they are my best friends!!) but now im trying to get some variety in friends as well, and i think ive made alot more friends too!!!
*bridget*
Robert, i really like what you said.. good job!!:)
*bridget*
Thank You to everyone who responded to my post....i will take the advice and i have already moved tables Ben, but thanks for the advice anyway haha.
Jackie
Sometimes i feel alone and like no one knows where im coming from. Like i have know on to talk to. And it isnt a good feeling, but i do know that i have some of the best friends i could ever ask for. They are always there for me to talk if i need to talk and i am always there for them. And i can honestly say i know some people who feel this way. and i know how they feel. And its better to talk to someone and get it out then hold it all in.
~ michaela howell(:
kelsey, wow i couldnt even imagine what you went through.. if you ever need someone to talk to, i am always there for you:)
*bridget*
Thx Autumn ill remeber tht. Oh and thanks to Hailey too.... ur right... a true friend would never make you feel lonely, or shouldn't anyway.
~Jackie
Well i havent truelly been alone but i have been lonely before. But if i ever felt the need to take that anger out i would talk to somebody about it. Most of the time these people that are lonely are the people that dont really fit in. We have people that are lonely in our school but evaryone avoids them. they try to talk to you but we all just ignore them. You need to bring them into your group and you will probably find out that they are really really nice people. All you have to do is be nice to them and they will be nice back.
-Ryan Szelc
Thanks Katie and Autumn! And I love what you said Bridget. I think we've all gone through some lonley periods in our lives. But I don't think any of us would do something as extreme as Peter did. We're all lonley or we're all gonna be lonley at one point or another. We just have to have people we can trust to rally around us when we need it. No one should as feel alone as Peter obviously was.
I loved what you said Robert! Great Job everyone!
~Jules :)
ROBERT
since when!!!
i always thought you were quiet and never really heard you talk that deep
ha way to go pal!
-jess packard
Good Job Julianne
~JAckie
I think that Ryan's right. WE need to accept new people into our groups when they need it. No one should be as lonley as Peter. Because, if you think about it, peter probably would'nt have done that if he'd had one or two really great friends to pick him up when he was down. He wasn't anyone's Hippopotamus. And that's sad. I think we should all try to include people and pick them up when they're down and not make them feel so lonley in the first place. If you see someone sitting alone at reccess or somehwere, try talking to them, you could just make their day.
~Jules :)
Thanks, Jackie!
~Jules :)
Good Job Jules!!(:
-nichole(:
"I think we should all try to include people and pick them up when they're down and not make them feel so lonley in the first place." brilliant jules. love itt
garthwaite
Great Job Jules!!
Leah O.
yea i totally agree julianne.. sometimes people just need that thought in their head that someone does care.. and that could be started by just a short conversation.. i know that if i was having a bad day (which we all do) i would want someone starting just a random conversation in the hallway, just to be nice.
*bridget*
I’ve experienced lonliness, but not to the highest degree. One my best friends from another school made soo many new friends, so I was left behind a lot of the time, and it wasn’t a good feeling at all. But I realize even from that experience I still don’t have a complete understanding of the term “lonely”. I think it means not having people around you, but I guess it’s not. Peter must have been even beyond that to bring a weapon to school. He felt that he didn’t have anyone to talk to. I hope there’s no one in our school that has that feeling, because there's always someone to talk to!
HaLeY :]
Robert and Jake,
I really liked what Jake said about different people deal with different anger. Robert I never knew you could come up with great comparisons!!!!
Leah O.
I most definitely have felt lonely before. Mostly, in 6th and half of 7th grade. I wasn't sure who my real friends were. When I drifted away/left my old group it was like starting all over. It's hard to go into a group in 7th grade because everyone has their groups set and want to keep them that way. I didn't really have too many friends so I didn't have anybody to talk to about it which made me feel lonely. However, I did have this one really good friend where I just decided I would go where ever she did…at lunch, recess, etc. I eventually became friends with some of her friends and it was getting better.
Then near the end of 7th grade I somehow fell into the group I am in now. And I never have that feeling anymore. If I didn’t have that friend who was there for me, I have no idea where I would be now and what kind of person.
I know people have been through the same thing as me because we have talked about it in class and seen it. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve done…leaving a group of friends you have been with for so long and taking that risk. So to the people considering to do that now, but scared to take that risk of having no one there, even though, I was lonely for a while and felt I had no one to go to, it did pay off, was worth it, and I have no regrets. And don’t think there isn’t anyone because there is…always remember that. So to those who just recently got the courage to do that. I give you props because it is really difficult.
~Hayley~
Also, Good Job Kelsey. I could never imagine going though what you did and I'm glad your able to trust us with your story.
bridget,
I really liked your post :) i totally agree with the whole feeling like you cant go anywhere.. and if that ever happens to you you can always sit at my table or lunch or text me or whatever :) i think i can trust you just as much as i can trust my other friends :)
~Autumn <33
thank you autumn!!:)
hayley, i love your post!! good job!!:)
*bridget*
peter was just a little hippo. but unfortunately no one at sterling high ever read the children's book "but not the hippopotamus". So everybody just kept not including him. And peter just didnt handle it well so he did what he did. so this is another reason why we need to keep looking for our hippos, try not to put people down, and try to include different hippos whenever you can.
Dan O
I havent havent been lonely, but at times i felt lonely.I really cant explain why but sometimes i do and i dont feel like it all the time though.I agree with haley on the not fully understanding the term "Lonely".
Good job everyone(:
Leah D.
omg. dan. i love how you compared that to the hippo book from class :) i loveee itt!! haha.
~Autumn <33
hayley, great response.
Dan O
yeah, Bridget if that ever happens, just like Autumn said you can always sit with us, or talk to us. were hear.(:
-nichole(:
hayley, great response
Dan O
robert,
i completely agree with you. I liked when you said " Life is a bumpy road or an ocean wave, it has its ups and downs. if life were one straight line it would be the most boring thing you could imagine." And i couldnt agree with that anymore.
~michaela howell(:
dan,
i really like what you said about the hippos.. we just have to keep finding our hippos!!
*bridget*
hailey garthwaite,
the things you are saying a truly amazing like blowing me away and i mean that. i never hear yu talk like that!....by the way the way you are responding is good!!!i would like to hear more of that
-jessica packard
bridget... thats soo funny... just gotta keep kinding themm!! ha. :)
~Autumn <33
People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges. - joseph newton
thanks jess!
hailey g
wow that quote makes absolutely perfect sense. Nice work hailey!
Dan O
i really like that quote hailey!!
*bridget*
He he no problem Hailey I love you
~jess Packard
p.s keep up the good work girly
Great Job with relating to the hippo thing dan (:
~Jackie
i like the quote hailey :)
~Autumn <33
"we're born alone, we live alone, and we die alone. Only through love and friendship can we create the illusion that we are not alone" -Orsen Welles
I like this quote because it's true! the only way you can not be alone if you throw a line out there and hope someone will reel you in. Then you will get to make friends with people, and your family will love you and hopefully everything will fall into place.
Dan O
i loovee the quotes Hailey and Dan!!(: Good Job.
-nichole(:
such a greatt quote dan. so true.
garthwaite
dan,
good quote.
~ michaela howell(:
lonliness is an island surrounded by a sea of people...
when you really think about it when you fell alone you fell that everyone is looking at you and they do not know how you feel. the only people who really will understand are the people on the boats coming to rescue you off that island of lonliness
-jessica packard
“The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.”
- Mother Teresa of Calcutta quotes
Leah O.!!
Pray that your loneliness may spur you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.”
-Dag Hammarskjold
Leah O.
jess,
i couldnt agree anymore.
~ michaela howell(:
jess, i really like what you said about the sea!! good thinking girl!!
*bridget*
At some times i have felt completely and utterly alone but i would never carry out a plan like that because....With out rain sunshine wouldent mean anything...and i feel that no matter how bad a situation may seem it most likely will get better..and in the world we seem to live in.. there is always someone there to give a helping hand..someone is always there to talk when you need it.. im here if anyone ever needs to talk
>John Magyar<
Great quotes guys I'm lovin them all
~jessica Packard
Thanks Bridget and micheala!!!!!!
~Jessica packardp
i like what hayley m said. if you dont feel comfortable around your friends now and your feeling lonely, yea it'll be hard changing your group of friends, but take a risk. im sure everything will be fine in the end. you know where you belong and if its not with the group of friends you have now.. you'll find the ones that are meant for you.
-garthwaite
Separate we come, and separate we go, And this be it known, is all that we know. -Conrad Aiken
-nichole(:
Nice quote Nichole
~Jessica Packard
At times i have felt lonley but not completly lonley to do anything so violent. I have people to turn to, i have friends and family that care for me. I think that others are so lonley that they would do something like that. Like Peter Houghton from the book, he had no one to depend on, to make him feel better, like thoughs who have family and friends that support them. So maybe next time you see someone down, ask them whats wrong try to help and support them through their problem and if you need help ask an adult figure.
~Theresa
Good job jackie!! I can relate to that because thats happened to me before to.
Luke
Thanks jess!
-nichole(:
Luke,
Thanks for the comment, and i'm glad that i have someone who can relate with the same problem, so then if we ever need help.... we can help eachother out.
~Jackie (:
Jackie,
Yup! If you ever need somebody to talk to or have a problem I can always help you!
Luke
Jackie,
Yup! If you ever need someone to talk to or have a problem I am always here to help!
Luke
Luke,
Yup Same to you! Now was your friends problem in this school or your old school.... if you don't mind me asking?
~Jackie
Jackie,
I don't mind and it was at my old school. A kid I thought was my friend put a sharpened pencil under me when I sat down. It got stuck in me and everyone made fun of me. I was also made fun of alot by my friends at my old school because I was bigger then them. Those were the only times when I felt lonely.
Luke
their would be times where i feel like im alone. its defintely rough to feel like that. what i do to make myself not be in that alone kinda feeling is to talk to other people besides your own friends. it totally works!
i tried it and it made me feel so relieved (:
at first u might think "ohh i dont know if i should b/c my friends might think about me or say rumors about me" well who really cares! think about yourself... not what other people think(:
-Katiee(;
And what i noticed is that you have to have a variety of friends to stay NOT lonely. So if something happens with one group, you always have another group of people that you feel are there for you.
~JACKIE (:
TOTALLY AGREE KATIE!!!!
~Jackie (:
I agree with you jackie!! Good Job.
-nichole(:
katie i really liked what you said. who does care, right? i mean it's your life dont worry about what other people say. just like in the movie angus....SCREW EM.
Dan O
haha bridget keep up the good work! ;D
-Katiee(;
Thanks Mr.G!!!!!
Luke
totally agree with you katieee!!(:
-nichole(:
Luke,
OMG Luke that's terrible.... but i know how you feel, i think everyone gets made fun of for atleast one insecurity that they have once in their life. Trust me we've all been through something that caused us to get made fun of!
~Jackie (:
haha exactly dan!
-Katiee(;
Thanks Mr. G!!!!
~Jackie (:
Just curious... Have any of you ever been unable to ask for help when you were hurting? Why?
Thanks Nichole,
Your doing a great job with the quotes and everything.... Keep up the Outstanding Work!!!
~Jackie
Jackie,
Thanks and yea we all do get picked on. Over the years I learned to ignoreit because the people that make fun of you are the real insecure haha
Luke
No i feel that i always had someone to go to wether it be a teacher, a friend, or my parents.
~Jackie
Yeah mr g. Cause i know it sounds weird but when your a guy i mean you dont want to ask for help cause then you look like a wuus in front of everybod. so you just kinda roll with the punches for a while. and i guess that is what peter did, until he just got hit too many times.
Dan O
nice job too dan!
-Katie(:
haha Thanks Jackie and Mr. G!!
-nichole(:
Luke,
I never really thought of that but now that you say it..... WOW YOUR RIGHT!!
~Jackie (:
Nichole,
No problem
~Jackie
thanks nicole i agree with you too(;
-Katie(:
Mr.G
I have felt that way because you are so sad and you think nobody will understand what your going through. You dont wanna talk to your parents because you think they will make it worse and sometimes your friends cant help you. In the end there is always atleast one good friend you can talk to.
Luke
yeah i've always had friends like Jackie, Autumn and Jenna, family, teachers like you to go too!
-nichole(:
Jackie,
Thank you very much!!!
Luke
Once again you all have taken my breath away. Megan I too am the youngest of six. Although I didn't experience the loss you have, I too was always in the shadow of my siblings. I love my parents and they did the best the could with what they had at the time. They treated us all the same. By the time my brother and I were adolescents they were weary. When I struggled through 4th - 11th grades my mom couldn't understand my anxiety or my fears. My brothers and sisters were all popular. Our house, already bursting at the seams, always had extras, but I never had a sleepover. It wasn't my scene. There was no way I was letting anyone in to the only place I was comfortable. My mom said what your mom did, "Your brothers and sisters never felt this way." That was the first but not the last time I confided in my mom. I too wondered what was wrong with me. Why couldn't I cope? A few years back I went to her again and told her I lived with four other people but never felt so lonely. My kids were my only source of happiness which wasn't good for them or me. As an adult I went back to my mom and dad and all my siblings and let it all go. They had no idea how I felt all those years. I always thought if mom couldn't understand who could? This is one of those instances where if you don't go through some tough times you may never see the good, and Life is Good. I threw myself out there and was reeled in (I borrowed that Dan O )by so many. It should come as no surprise that Mr. G., one of my best friends, had the strongest reel out there. Never underestimate the power of a true friend.
~Ms. Carr
Thanks katiee(:
btw you spelt my name wrong,lol.
-nichole(:
Mr. G,
Yeahh, you can be afraid of what other people will say or think. Like, Whenever I do they usually say "Just ignore it" Well, if I was able to just ignore it I wouldn't be asking you for help in the first place.
But, mostly scared what other people will say or think about it. Like, that your over reacting or maybe the advice they give will make it worse.
~Hayley
Hayley, i agree with you 100%.
if we were able to ignore it we wouldnt be asking anyone for advice, Good Job Hayley!!
-nichole(:
Wow Hayley, that's really good!!! Your right its like if we don't care then why are we reacting the way we do. Like when something happens with friends, usually your just like whatever i don't care i can get over it, when you really can't and that's why you are crying yourself to bed (as bridget said). You obviously care if you just can't get it out of your head.
~Jackie
sometimes i really have to think about if i actually want help... sometimes i think that people dont wanna hear about my problems and like maybe they wont care... so whenever i have a problem i usually have to think about whether i wanna tell someone about it. i guess im afraid of what they will have to say :(
~Autumn <33
autumn you shouldnt really be afraid to tell someone your problems. I know you have great friends, and family is always an option. But if it gets to the point that nobody wants a part of it i am a good listener.
Dan O
thanks dan :) my parents are just alwaysss soo busy and i dont wanna drown my friends with my problems... i dont wanna seem selfish. ya know?? so thats all. but thanks:)
~Autumn <33
yeah understood.
dan
haha oops sorry nichole!
yippee i spelled it right
(;
-Katiee(:
thanks though :)
~Autumn <33
awwww yahh autumn dont be afraid.
if u wanna talk... TALK TO MEE!
haha:D
-Katiee(:
did i mention that i love this blog? because i do
h garth
did i mention that i love this blog..because i do
h garth
yea autumn, if you ever need anyone to talk to im always there for you.. oh and we have all the same classes so i really am always there!!
and i totally agree with you hayley. when i usually say something about my problems to my friends sometimes they usually just say ignore it but most of the time you just cant ya know?
*bridget*
There's always a point in someones life where they feel like they have nobody, and feel completely alone. Most of the time we take for granit that we have so many people to help us. I couldn't imagine feeling the torture of being so alone to hit that point... it'd be scary. Nobody should feel that way, and nobody should treat anyone as if they're nothing. You never know you could wind up working for the people you pick on.
-Alexis
haha yess very much haileyy :D
-Katiee(:
sameeeeeeeeeeee hailey!!!
*bridget*
i 100% agree with you alexis!!
*bridget*
thanks katie and bridget :) its good to know that i have someone if i absolutly need it <3
~Autumn <333
haha ur welcome autumn(:
-Katiee(:
mr g,
yea, ive always had someone to go to.. either my friends, teachers, my parents, and mostly my older sisters.. even though they are away at college, i still call them when i need advice and they are always there to listen.. they are my best friends:)
*bridget*
Thanks Bridgettttt! But, I agree with what all you guys said. My parents tend to compare me to people all the time, they don't really get that it hurts. They're at work a lot...barely home... and sometimes I think I don't have them to talk to because they won't get it. So I know what you mean Autumn, but I learned through out the year somebody is always willing to listen. Wether it's a teacher or friends! Just like Dan said, and if you ever need someone else to talk to you got me too! It's tough being compared to siblings or friends... you feel like your not good enough.
-Alexis
Mr. G,
Yes I have felt that way. For me, i couldnt tell because then that meant that I had to trust the person I told. Its no longer just me anymore, but someone else would be involved in my problem. Personally, i would hate to put my problems on someone elses shoulders. To this day, i still keep alot to myself mainly because of trust. Its really hard to tell someone your pain because you dont know what reaction to expect. they could try and help you or they can try and put it aside simply because they dont know how to respond. Sometimes i tell people things but theres alot more to me (and Im sure everyone else) than everyone sees... even the closest of friends. Even though i could trust them with my life, some things are better left unsaid so that i can fix the problems myself, my way, in my own time. Thats what I truely feel, and i stand by it 100% :) some secrets and pain are okay to keep to yourself.
~Jenna~
AUTUMN,
You can tell me anything!! You are NOT drowning your friends with your problems (especially not me). Just call me your Dr. Phil :) thats what susy and all of them call me, because apparently i give good advice and i LOVE helping people. and that goes to EVERYONE!! If anyone ever needs a friend or just someone to talk to... I love to try and help, and i can listen :)
~Jenna~
i totally agree with alexis... i hate it soo much when my parents compare me to my sister. its not because i dont like my sister. like alexis said i dont think they know how much it hurts. i just want to say to them that i am NOT my sister. i dont like the same stuff she does. i dont want to take all the classes shes taking! i dont want to do everything the way she did. i want to be an individual. and its not just my parents... all of my teachers too. and im not saying this as a mean thing towards my sister, it just gets annoying sometimes.
~Autumn <33
P.S. thanks alexis, for being there for me :) <3
In my life, and i think in everybodys life, they have felt lonley. It sucks. You feel that there is no where to turn and the whole word is crashing down on you. Peter had no where to turn. He obviously couldnt talk to his mom or dad, and friends?? Noo way. Mr. G and Ms. Carr have taught me alot this year and one thing was that WORDS DO HURT! Calling someone a faget or gay might be a big joke to you, but could really be tearin away at someone inside. And ill be the first to admit it. Ive used to say gay all the time. Ofcourse to me it was a joke, but it can really make someone feel lonley, or depressed. Again im gonna say it: Your Trapped.
You have no where to go.
I have been lonley before in my life a couple times.. not near to the degree where i want to bring a gun to skool and shoot my classmates but it really sucks. Luckily for me i have friends, family, and teachers i can talk to. And i bet that everyone in Mr G's class would take the time to hear my problems.. weather we are friends or not.
You really have to be carefull about what you say. It can really hurt someone. No matter if you think its a joke , people take things diffrently.
Of courseeee, anytime Autumn! I know exactly how you feel... literally! I'm tired of hearing the same thing. "Why aren't you like your sister?", "Why don't you get friends like hers?", "Why don't you act like your sister?". It makes you feel like you should give up trying sometimes, and to top it off I have two sisters... both straight A students that my whole family admires.
-Alexis
When I was in fifth grade, my grandpa died. It made me feel so empty. I didn't want to talk to anyone and I just felt like locking myself in my room and just crying. But then I realized that my whole family was going through the same thing. I'd been bottling up my saddness, trying to let it pass. The night we got home from his funeral, I found my dad crying in his room. I'd never seen my dad cry before, and I couldn't hold it in anymore. I remember just sitting there in my dads arms crying for a good hour. My lonliness seemed to disapear, and I felt a little better. Lonliness is a tough thing. It feels like nobody else in the world understands what you're going through. And Kelsey I love what you said and if you ever need sommeone to talk to i'm heerree(:
emilee(:
I wish people today would think like first graders. In a sence of being around people. My first day in IMS i walked into Mrs. Lafferyte(dont know how to spell tht) class, knowing absolutely nobody. Im not too sure if anybody knew anyone. But they all just got along. I first walked in and i sat down, scared to death, and Robert Roach came up to me and said. "wanna play lincoln logs and be my best friend?" I was confused. This kid i didnt know at all, had taken time to notice that i was about to pee my pants cause i was frightened, walked up to me and included me into the game and became my friend. HE didnt care if i was tall, short, wearing nice clothes,he didnt care. ANd everybody in that class was like that. You always included people. Without thinking about how they look. It was automatic.
Ill never forget that day.
+Eric
alexis, who cares if they are straight A students!! they get the As where they dont really count in most parts.. grades dont define you.. well smart but i dont want to be considered as just smart!! i mean you have your own personality that everyone admires!! your so fun, out going, happy, and always fun to be around!! so never have any thing to worry about yourself, your perfect the way you are:) i love you!!!
*bridget*
p.s.- we are the giggle twins!! remember!!??<333
aww eric thats so cute.. it really should be that way.
*bridget*
p.s.- friends? i just dont paper thrown at me in the bleachers!! hah
eric i can totally imagine robert doing that haha. but yeah i wish everybody thought that way. but now if you go and say that to someone you have to go to court because you being sued for sexual harassment somehow.
Dan O
wow. alexis, thats exactly what i hear at my house!! sometimes i think that they arent as proud of me as they are of her. wow... we have more in common then i thought. thats pretty cool that when you actually have a real convo with someone... your not all that different :)
~Autumn <33
I loveeee what Eric said! Being little seemed to be so much easier, no fights... inless it was over blocks and even then it only lasted a minute until you saw another toy. I remember in Education Station I was scared to death to go in and I wrapped my arms around my mom and dads legs. The lady, Ms.Lynel came up to me and said that it was my day to pick what we did. Wether it was jump on tables or dance around the school. So that day she took everyone and we made a canga-line and danced on tables all day! I ran into that teacher two months ago at Wawa and she doesn't work there anymore, but she remembered me and hugged me and reminded me of that day. It's kind of amazing how people remember small things like that!
p.s. Thanks sooo much Bridget that means a lottt! And GIGGLE TWINS... so many gooooood memoriessss!
-Alexis
haha no prob alexis!! and we do have sooooo many good memories i will never forget!!
*bridget*
I think it's kinda funny that the post about lonliness has the most comments. :)
~Jules :)
that story about you talking to your mom mr. g was very touching to me wen i read it, and over the coarse of this year ive gotten to kow you and weve had some pretty deep conversations and i want you to kow that getting to kow you has been a life changing exprience and i would like to keep on getting to kow you. and i hope that you kow now that we kow eachother you will always have me even on the darkest of days wen you feel you have no one there for you ill be with you in your heart.
-austin
ive felt lonley before. so lonley tht i have thought about killing myself or hurting others. and its alll emotional. im a really emotional person. i may look like mr tough guy but i get really emotional. it doesnt take alot for e to cry. you can physically beat me and i can take it, but when it comes to emotions and people i really care about, it doesnt take much to break me down.
-Haas
I totally agree nick like our "group" i guess looks like the tough guys to the rest of the school but i am too a very emotional person and like you said nice you can beat me and i can take that and but like say a family member of mine passes i cry, i cry alot and im not afriad to admit that. and say my friend gets hurt or something id be pretty upset and it may take a little bit to break me down but i will crumble at one point.
-austin
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