“I loved Matt. And I hated him. I hated myself for loving him, but if I wasn’t with him, I wasn’t anyone anymore.”
“I don’t understand…”
“How could you? You’re perfect.” Josie shook her head. “The rest of us, we’re all like Peter. Some of us just do a better job of hiding it. What’s the difference between spending your life trying to be invisible, or pretending to be the person you think everyone wants you to be? Either way, you’re faking.” (pp. 446 – 447)
Do kids “fake” who they are at school? Should they? What happens if they do?
Is your identity determined by whom you hang with? What impact is there socially for choosing to be with some peers over others?
Do all students see themselves as different and not truly a part of the school?
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im going to use him as an example because i know he wont mind, and if he does then im sorry. i have to use dan fink for this blog as my example because i think he is the only true person in our grade who doesnt "fake" it.i know he doesnt either, because even when those jerks make fun of him he still doesnt do anything to change himself. he just ignores them and hi be's himself. and even in class he just does what he does and either draws all period or he may give some of the most intelligent speeches ive heard. so kudos to you dan fink.
i do think that people's identity is determined by who they hand with. because like what we were talking a while ago in class with matt dicroce. nick and everyone was saying how matt is a complete different person whether he is with the macho lunch wolf pack, or if he's with eric and alex, or (at the time) when he was with kelsey. so obviously his identity changed if people we perceiving him at a different person.
some students may see themselves as different, or maybe even not a part of the school. but i think that they are just being stupid. im pretty sure everyone at this school has at least ONE true friend. and with that one friend they have to feel welcomed. because nobody should feel alone. and if they are then i know that we will welcome them into room 211. haha
dan o
Kids deffinatley put on a mask and act fake at school. Some people are easier to unleash the mask in and some people just keep there mask on all the time. Like I know when I talk to someone I don't try to act fake, and I don't think most people do either.I do know some people that do and it is really annoying because you know they would be good people inside. You are right Dan in saying Dan Fink is himself because he is. He doesn't care if you like it or not and I respect him for that!You are determined by the friends you hang out with.If one of your friends is gossiper your turn into one if your friend is having a bad day and is grumpy your whole group of friends is considered rude. But on a positive note you do have similarities between your friends even though you shouldn't be judged.I think this year our class has broken the judgment by hanging out in groups when we did that project. Peoples reactions were priceless! Sure hanging out with the more popular people will make you more popular, but over this past year I think we found out hanging with your true friends is worth the World.I don't think I know anyone that doesn't feel as they are part of the school, but I am sure there are kids. Like if you don't play sports or don't do well in school i could see how you slip into the background and feel like you aren't leaving your mark and your not memorable.I think its our responsibility to make these kids feel welcomed because they all are! :)
Leah Oatmeal:)!
Kids most definitely "fake" who they are at school, sometimes it's actually annoying. I do not think they should fake it because eventually when people find out the real them, they may not like them because they may think they're just putting on another mask. But when people put on a mask it seems like they are liked more, because it seems like the people who just be themselves are disliked.
Your personality yes, is determined by who you hang with, if you hang with the populars your gonna be popular... and on the other hand when you hang with the nerds you get identified as a nerd. When you hang with the people who talk to everyone and our friends with everyone you will most likely be popular because you are friendly with everyone, whereas if you ignore people you will also be ignored.
There's probably some kids who see themselves as different. They may even think they are not a part of the school, but the truth is everyone's a part of the school because they are still a student in that school. Everyone who is within that school is a part of it, even if they may be different (:
~JACKIE
wow i thought this was a good blog topic! nobody's commenting
dan o
i used to put on a mask everyday, and i guess because i had it on all the time and for so long, no one really thought it was never really me. But i think if someone else puts on a mask and has never really conquered its meaning like me, would probably get picked on or slapped around by the friends( for once that wasnt sexual). Because your real friends always know you whether or not you dont want them to, and since i never really had real friends people just never second guessed my personality because no one really knew me at all before 211. I always tried to fit into that group of people and now i look back and think why would i ever even think they liked me? They were outcasts and i was an outcast in that group because i didnt want to totally tranform myself into those doings, and everyone knew i didnt belong there, and they knew it too.
I dont know, i just always thought it would be different. But i can see why like matt dicroce would be different around everyone, and i just think that someone like matt would benefit from just being him all the time, and i could say this with all the confidence i have, that matt dicroce has made one of the biggest changes this year, and is starting to go down a road to a better him, so i say CONGRATULATIONS! because i know that it just feels better being you and not hiding behind a mask, words, or people. I just hope in the future everyone finds parts of themselves so they dont have to hide behind their actions
Megan Basenfelder
secretly ironman
I do think some people fake who they are. I know a couple people I could point out right now but I'm not going to say any names. One person acts stupid to try to be cool when he is actually really smart. One person follows other people and can't make a decision for themselves. And another person acts tough by making his vioce deeper than it really is. And all these people who are fake, fake really obviously.
Zach Wood
Okay so I'm just going to start out by saying toy story has to be one of the best movies EVER!! I feel complete now that I have seen it(:
I think identity is determined by who you hang out with. Kids mostly just see the group you are with and think that you are basically clone copies of them, just because you hang with them. Does that make sense? I think yeah there is an impact of who you hang with on the social latter. I also think that mostly everybody fakes who they are at school. I mean, I am me with my friends because i know they love me for who I am. I don't think it is necessary for people to fake who they are. People should like you for who you are, take it or leave it.
emilee(:
p.s can we watch toy story two is class tomorrow/next week?!
p.s.s I think both classes should allllll go see toy story 3 together!!!!!!!!
I think that people definatly fake who they are at school. I think just because theyre so used to putting on the mask everyday, so theyre scared what people might see and theyre scared what they might find in themselves. I dont think everyone should but maybe they just dont know who they truely are yet. including me. i dont really know what the "real me" is so im just trying to find whats right. and you are identified by who you hang with just cause thats where you always are and thats where people notice you. Changing groups has to be so hard because you will always be questioned on why and just becasuse people are so used to having you there, so its just different. i know that i would never give up my group for popularity because i love my friends, i have tons of fun with them, and i know if i left i would be missing out on what truely makes me happy for popularity which would just make me misserable.
*bridget*
Every kid fakes who they are at school, and if anyone says they don't... they're lieing. It's not like you try to, but as soon as you get into school your mask goes on. You don't want to be the kid everyone makes fun of, but being at the top isn't any better. I hate how people have to hide who they are, and it's just because we're scared of what people might say. Screw it. I don't care if people say stuff about me. I've got my friends who actually like me for who I am, and thats a whole lot better than acting like someone your not to "be cool". Faking who you really are isn't going to help anyone. Neither will making fun of anyone. Do you think it makes you look cool? No, it doesn't. It makes you look like a jerk, have fun having that reputation.
Who you hang out with deffinitly classifies who you are. If you hang out with a certain group over another you could be considered a "nerd" or "cool". It's just how people classify groups. Stupid, I know.
People just need to learn how to shut their pie holessss. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all, hahaa what a great quote to live by. OH! OH! OH! OH! I found another quote that went perfectly with this senario... "Pay no mind to those who talk behind your back, it simply means that you are two steps ahead." Anyways, I hate when people act like they're someone they're not.
-leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeexxxxxxxi(;
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